That bias issue within the family, is unavoidable. It is mostly noted when amongst friends, as we have friends who are constantly jealous of one another, for having things that we want to have but the others have it. The victims? Normally the 'youngest child' or the 'only child' label.

Why do we all have to be jealous? It seems to be a normal human instinct within everyone. Consciously, or subconsciously, or not noticeable at all, it will be there regardless. Which sucks alot, really.

Let me question you, in all honesty, what was it when you felt that one of your peers has a car to drive, while you don't. Will you be thinking, 'if only I am that rich, I could get a car for my own to drive' and then go on -blaming- your parents for having such a big family, for not being able to afford so many cars. Or as the eldest, you would be wondering, why does the youngest one always gets pampered while you have to do all the hard work (even then, you don't get rewarded like the youngest one does).

That jealousy is never ending. There is bound to be SOMETHING for you to be jealous about, and to rant about.

As the only child to my dear mother, I get that alot. Whenever I get something expensive, or when I splurge a little more than what others would, I am always afraid that my friends will go, "yeah, you are the only child, you mother only needs to spend on you, and that is about it. I need to think about my other siblings and my parents are not as wealthy as you are".

It makes me feel like I can't spend my money properly. It makes me feel like I am spending TOO MUCH MONEY. That will also make me sit down, infront of the computer for an hour or so, looking through my bank details, thinking where my money had went. Maybe I don't know the value of money, cause my mother 'spends money on me lavishly' that apparently makes people around me jealous for the things I have.

But what bugs me the most, is the fact that people are placing labels on you, just because of where you stand in the family.

ASIANS. Or rather, malaysians, tend to have this habit. Where the youngest is the one who is getting the upper hand to almost everything, and the only child being ultimately spoiled. Then again, there are other sorts of bias as well; the only girl in the family, or the only boy in the family.

What am I trying to say? I don't know. But it bothers me.

The issue came up when my mother asked if I needed a car to use. I in response, said it wasn't necessary for I know public transportation was suffiecient enough for me. Public transport also inhibits my movements too much. If it inhibits me moving around so much, I could actually save more money, giving the excuse that I need to depend on public transport to move about. Then to think again, with a car, I have the conveniece to go places, without hassle and worry of public transportation. I have driven for a year back in Malaysia, I knew that a car require a lot of maintanence. Not forgetting the petrol price as well (aussie's petrol is like some stock exchange thingy, hurh).

See, I have weighed my options, and it seems like me sticking to public transport is winning. In contrast to that, public transport isn't that cheap either. One to and fro journey to the city during the weekdays would cost me 7 dollars. One day journey within zone 2 would cost me 3dollars. Either way, I would still need to travel within zone 2. THEN AGAIN, it would still be cheaper than the car... right? Also not forgetting the hours it takes with long distance journeys with public transportation. And the safety too..

I don't know.

"How much did you get this car for?"
"About 18k. Are you getting one?"
"Am thinking about it."
"Are you the youngest in your family?"
"No? I am the only child."
"Ahh. Saw that coming."

But what I know is that it is extremely frustrating when somebody decides to judge you immediately after knowing that I may have a huge sum of money that my mother is willing to spend on me. ESPECIALLY when I have to go through all those brain juice draining thoughts.

Evil humans.
Can't you just be happy with your own life and stop judging for a moment?

NOPE.
Neither can I.