Sometimes being nice will annoy the crap out of people. What am I supposed to do when that happens?

When I do things to allow myself some happy feelings but it ends up annoying people, does it mean I should just be selfish and not give a crap about anything at all? When people need help and I'd be happy to provide benefits for them, yet it is actually something common and not worth the effort because it isn't recognized. I'd get so frustrated when I give and nobody takes them with gratitude. It makes me feel like my effort isn't worth anything and that makes me sad.

I don't want to live for my own benefit because I can't see how me being my only company can help me improve myself as a person. I'd rather have someone, people around me as references on how it would be to live an ideal life, listening through people's problems and learn more about the life in a way.

... nvm.

Let's just assume you don't know me and I will be somebody whom you will find completely uncomfortable to have a conversation with. :)